Say What?

"The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well, that just fabulous."

-Sex and The City

Lady in Red

Wearing red instantly boosts your mood because it's energizing and commands attention. If you are not bold enough to wear it but still want an emotional pick me up, try a subtler shade in the same color family.

• Orange-A mix of high-octane red and cherry yellow, this fun color sends out signals of approachability.
• Pink-The sweet side of red, pink makes you feel sensual and romantic.
• Purple-It's like red-dynamic and sexy. But the addition of blue makes it a bit more serene and tranquil.

Did You Know?

The average person spends 2 weeks of their life kissing.

The 5 Times You Shouldn't Text Him

1. After your first few dates. It may be tempting to contact a guy after an amazing date, but resist the urge. Reaching out lessens the thrill of the chase for him.
2. When you're drunk. Since phones don't come with Breathalyzers, it's up to you to stop yourself from sending a tipsy message — especially one that suggests you two meet up ASAP. Being too available lets a guy know he has all the leverage.
3. When you're angry. It's annoying when a guy flakes, but sending a "Why haven't you called me?!" inquiry makes you look massively insecure. Avoid angry texts once you're in a relationship too. When it's in writing, you can't easily take it back. It's even smart to ban bitchy humor, which can sound meaner than it is.
4. When you're trying to be funny. When relayed nonverbally, sarcasm and joking can come off as aggressive. A dude could read a message like "OMG, you were out of control last night" literally, which makes you sound pissed when you were actually just fondly remembering his funny behavior.
5. When you've already texted him that day. Once you're in an ongoing relationship, you may be tempted to rely on texting as a regular form of communication, and there's nothing wrong with staying in touch that way sometimes. But electronic communication discourages phone conversations and one-on-one time. Also, guys like brief updates, not a blow-by-blow of your life.

Read Between His Lines

He Says: "You're so mysterious."

He Means: "I haven't been able to figure you out yet and I'm feeling a little insecure about where I stand with you."

Cold Spoons

• How to do it: Keep a couple of spoons in the refrigerator. When you need to depuff quickly, press the back of one under each eye, holding it there for up to a minute.
  
• Why it works: The cold temp. reduces swelling beneath eyes, which can occur when you rub them or after a poor night's sleep.

Bored?

Get a group of friends together and grab your Ipods or MP3 players and have a silent rave! Go to a public place and all at once each person will listen to their music with their own headphones and dance. These types of "silent disco's" are popular during protests or demonstrations.

J'Adore

The Great Gatsby

A 1974 film where Nick Carraway, a young Midwesterner now living on Long Island, finds himself fascinated by the mysterious past and lavish lifestyle of his neighbor, the nouveau riche Jay Gatsby. He is drawn into Gatsby's circle, becoming a witness to obsession and tragedy.

PostSecret of the Day

PostSecret is an ongoing community mail art project in which people mail their secrets anonymously on one side of a homemade postcard.
http://postsecret.blogspot.com/

Be A Gracious Couch Crasher

Do:

1. Bring a little present
2. Make a plan for your activities
3. Offer to pay for a lunch or dinner
4. Be neat and pick up after yourself
5. Give thanks when you leave with a card or note.

Don't:

1. Just show up
2. Use their products without permission
3. Bring tons of stuff when you don't need to
4. Just jump in the shower when they might need it first
5. Use their computer because there could be private info.

Fun Find

Discreet and easy to use, the SoleMates High Heeler™ attaches easily to most stiletto and kitten heels. By increasing the surface area on the base of the heel, it reduces the pressure on this area and prevents the heel from sinking into grass or falling into cracks! $11.95 from SoleMates.

Read Between His Lines

He Says: "I didn't know you'd be so upset."

He Means: "I figured you would be so I decided to tell you before I did it."

Hair Color Decoder

What the color on the box really means...

• Berry-Bright Red
• Cinnamon-Deep Auburn
• Chocolate-Medium Brown
• Espresso-Rich Dark Brown
• Honey-Medium Brown
• Champagne-Light Ash Brown

What his bed sheets reveal?

• Basic-The average guy buys cheap, solid colored bedding. This fella is unlikely to spring and surprises on you in or out of the sack.


• Silky-If his sheets are satiny enough to double as a slip-n-slide, he may be a player who thinks luring you into his room will guarantee a score.


• Matching-A high thread count and matching duvet? His mom likely bought them and he'll expect you to take care of him in the same way.

GORGE!

Marc Jacobs Duffy Bag on Bag-$1,950

Did You Know?

A clothing item is considered vintage if it dates from 1920 to 1960. After that date, an item is considered to be retro, not vintage.

Top 10 Resolutions Not To Make...

1. Quit your job and wait for a dream career opportunity to present itself. Recession shmecession.

• Reality check: Suck it up and hang on to your gig for now. Appease yourself by taking a class or picking up a hobby that will make your résumé stand out, like learning a foreign language or starting a blog.

2. Lose five pounds.

• Reality check: 2008 proved that toned and curvy is the new skinny think Scar Jo and Beyonce.

3. Finally win back your ex-boyfriend.

• Reality check: Move on. Engage in some rebound relationship therapy.

4. Buy into all the latest trends.

• Reality check: It’s okay to be a slave to fashion...just be a slave to cheap fashion, rather than dropping serious bank on each and every look. Kick yourself later for wearing it, but don’t kick yourself for blowing your paycheck on it.

5. Change your man.

• Reality check: While some relationship tweaking is to be expected (hey, few guys are natural-born good kissers), if the words “fixer-upper” and “project” could describe your boyfriend, it’s time to get real.

6. Triple the number of friends you have on Facebook.

• Reality check: Less time stalking your friends’ friends’ friends. More time catching up with buddies you actually care about.

7. Don’t eat any junk food.

• Reality check: Cutting out all unhealthy food from your diet will most likely lead to binge eating, followed by intense guilt, by mid-January.

8. Watch less trashy TV.

• Reality check: Zoning out and de-stressing for a bit every night with the help of good bad television is harmless.

9. Save more money.

• Reality check: Let’s be honest. In this economy, we’re just happy to be able to pay our rent, gas, and credit card bill.

10. Keep your number down.

• Reality check: Nothin’ wrong with notches on your bedpost, as long as you’re being safe.

HAPPY 2009!